I’m going to share an excerpt with you today, from a book that I’ve read twice now, and will probably read again and again because it is just that filled with wisdom.
I’ve mentioned it before, that “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” is an excellent, eye-opening read by author Mark Manson that should probably be required reading material for college freshman (and I say college freshman because there is just no way a book with F*CK on the front cover, is making it’s way into a high school — we can dream).
Here we go:
“I remember discussing this dynamic with my Russian teacher one day, and he had an interesting theory. Having lived under communism for so many generations, with little to no economic opportunity and caged by a culture of fear, Russian society found the most valuable currency to be trust. And to build trust you have to be honest. That means when things suck, you say so openly and without apology. People’s displays of unpleasant honesty were rewarded for the simple fact that they were necessary for survival—you had to know whom you could rely on and whom you couldn’t, and you needed to know quickly. But, in the “free” West, my Russian teacher continued, there existed an abundance of economic opportunity—so much economic opportunity that it became far more valuable to present yourself in a certain way, even if it was false, than to actually be that way. Trust lost its value. Appearances and salesmanship became more advantageous forms of expression. Knowing a lot of people superficially was more beneficial than knowing a few people closely. This is why it became the norm in Western cultures to smile and say polite things even when you don’t feel like it, to tell little white lies and agree with someone whom you don’t actually agree with. This is why people learn to pretend to be friends with people they don’t actually like, to buy things they don’t actually want. The economic system promotes such deception. The downside of this is that you never know, in the West, if you can completely trust the person you’re talking to. Sometimes this is the case even among good friends or family members. There is such pressure in the West to be likable that people often reconfigure their entire personality depending on the person they’re dealing with.”
I just love that. I love many things from the book but I love the point being made here.
Honesty. Integrity. Speaking your truth. Authenticity.
It’s hard to come by anymore because it’s less valued by our society more than “getting ahead” is, and people – as we’ve seen recently in the case of the rich elite dropping top dollars to get their under-deserving children into the Ivy’s – will lie and steal and cheat and present false images to get ahead, with no remorse for those they crush on their way to the top.
This is the status quo with which I am simply fucking done.
We are breeding children from young ages to perform and outshine each other, creating a culture of competition, while at the same time, not preparing them for the rejection and struggle that goes along with competing. Hence, adults who are entitled enough to pay someone to write their admissions essay to grad school.
It makes me sad to see a world that cares more about breeding good “human capital” than simply good people.
I want to see even playing fields. I want to see people express their truth authentically and without shame. I want to see people create more, and love more and give more.
I want to see the game – the system – get exposed for what it is: a scam.
Part of my personal mission with being an artist is to draw attention to these issues through the work I create, the words I write and the message that I spread.
This is not OK.
The people are not alright.
I encourage you to join me.
I encourage you to find your light. Find your power. Join me on this journey in seeking self-actualization for the greater good of the world.
Let’s get off of our hamster wheels, turn off the auto-pilot. Engage.
Go write that novel. Go sing that song. Go paint that painting. Get up and dance and stop giving a fuck who is watching and judging; that’s their problem for being judgmental.
I am not going to stand here and pretend like what I’m asking you is easy.
I’ve been doing this and trying to do for a while now, and it is not easy. Our society is not set up for people who want to march to the rhythm of their own drum, but I want you to march anyway.
Speak your Truth. Shout it from the roof tops!
Stop standing for disrespect and shitty people being shitty.
Say something, do something, be something – BE YOU.
Risk being seen in all of your glory and don’t apologize for it.
Sorry, not sorry.
Let’s go get em…
Honestly and Unapologetically Yours,